“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
Most often we find these bunch of people who are overly negative about anything and everything. “No, this is so difficult. I can’t do it.”, “Goodness me, what does she think of herself if she came first in class?”
It’s a constant stream of negative judgments, criticisms, blaming, and complaining.
And I never want to be around that kind of negativity. I find it very contagious and offensive. It becomes much harder to be the positive one, among such negative people.
Fortunately, I met some old friends who are struggling to be successful in life and are dedicated to their work and believe they can overcome and handle anything life throws at them.
I started hanging out with them and implemented every new idea they shared with me. As for the rest, they were boring, but what the others failed to realize was that these “boring one’s” are busy doubling their bank account digits and trying to be successful with liberty, unlike them, still utilizing the money of their parents’.
Negativity from toxic people should have no influence over you
All of us have to deal with at least a few toxic people in our lifetime.
You know exactly the kind of people I’m talking about…
They’re the ones who are always complaining and blaming others for their situations. They only judge others, spread negative gossip, and always talk about how bad it is.
They keep telling you your dreams are impossible and try to disincline you from believing in your dreams and pursuing your goals. They continually try to pull you down to their level.
For instance, a normal phone conversation or chat with them will involve tension, stress, and disorder for the rest of your day.
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?
Perhaps, these toxic people are your coworkers, or a group of friends from college. Or they could even be your family members.
No matter who they are, they have the power to drain out your energy, faith, motivation, and self-confidence that you require to achieve your goals and create the life of your dreams.
It is only so simple – IF you let them, that is.
Given below are three most valuable tips on how to release yourself from their negative influence.
Tip 1: Identify who the toxic people are and how they’re holding you back
Make a list of all those you spend time with on a regular basis – your family members, colleagues, neighbors, friends, people in your community, members of your religious group, and so on.
After completing your list, go back and put a cross sign (X) against those people who are always negative, critical, and complaining, and a plus sign (+) next to those who are positive and stimulating.
While making a decision about each person, you’ll find that a pattern forms.
Perhaps your entire workplace is filled with toxic characters. Or maybe it’s your friends who are pessimistic about everything you do. Or maybe it’s your family members who continually put you down and cripple your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Once you get clear, you’ll start seeing how they’ve been influencing your viewpoint on your life and career and defer you from creating the life of your dreams.
Tip 2: You’ll only waste time with them
You’re better off alone than spending time with people who hold you back with their wretched mentality and their mediocre standards.
I know, it’s easier to say than do, especially if these toxicants are your colleagues or family members.
Perhaps you’ll feel like you can’t remove them from your life right now. At the very least, I spur you to severely lessen the amount of time you spend with them.
Always bear in mind, nothing is impossible, it’s always a choice.
If you work in a toxic environment, apply for another job. Difficult? Enhance your skills to be a more alluring job candidate.
When your family’s negativity is slowly poisoning you, talk to them honestly and tell them how their negative words and actions affect you. If they don’t listen to you or honor how you feel, stop spending time with them. It is that simple.
You have all the power and the right to discard people from your life if they constantly offend your self-worth and avert you from becoming the best possible human you can be.
Tip 3: Keep yourself surrounded with positive people
The easiest way to do this is by filling your life with positive people.
Ensure vigilantly to surround yourself with positive, caring, and encouraging people who believe in you, inspire you to go after your dreams, and applaud your victories.
Discover successful people who have accomplished many amazing things in their life. This is one of the most compelling ways to bring more success and happiness in your life – by hanging out with people who inspire you and can give you the support and advice you need to attain your success.
Where do you find these people?
Join a professional association. If you’re a young person, join some Young Entrepreneurs’ Organization.
Volunteer for leadership positions. Volunteer to serve with other leaders in your church, temple, or mosque. Attend lectures, courses, seminars, camps, and retreats taught by those who have already achieved what you wish to achieve.
Your life will be so rich you won’t have a minute left to spend with toxic people!
And who knows? Your success might inspire the negative in your life to aim higher in their own lives as well.