What is anxiety?
Oh! I am feeling anxious, I am feeling some butterflies in my stomach, but what is it when we say anxiety. Anxiety is a word commonly used, but mixed with a lot of things, What is anxiety? Anxiety is an emotion characterized by an unpleasant state of inner turmoil, often accompanied by nervous behaviour such as pacing back and forth, somatic complaints, and rumination. It is the subjectively unpleasant feelings of dread over anticipated events, such as the feeling of imminent death. So is it same as fear? No. Anxiety is more about the expectation of future threat, whereas fear is a response to real or perceived immediate threat.
It is an inappropriate response of your body to the unreasonable threat, there may or may not be, due a specific cause in the environment. There are various ways to deal with anxiety right from breathing exercises, meditation and medication. One therapeutic tool to deal with anxiety would be Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP.
Uses of NLP in Treatment of Anxiety:
Neuro – means nervous pathway, Linguistic means language and Programming means training the pathway. So in short NLP at core, believes that the words we use or the language we use sets up a neural pathway and causes a shift of belief in the subconscious mind.
The world around us is perceived differently by different people that formulates a belief system or premise. Based on this premise or belief system we create our own story or reality.
Discovered By Richard Bandler and John Grinder, NLP is a set of tools and technique which can be used to deal with anxiety or bring about changes within for developing self.
We have our filters of the world and we all run a chain of thought that rules our world. NLP is channelling of these thoughts. Different tools of NLP can be used to manage and cure anxiety.
There are some great NLP tools you can use to better manage your anxiety such as:
- Using Trance or Relaxation Anchors.
How you view your stress and anxiety can help you manage your anxiety. Your stress can also be a driving force that can motivate you to make your dreams come true. If done right then reframing of mind can be one of the biggest tools to change and redirect your life. This is because if you change the direction of your thought, you are able to harness its power. We have all the instinct to survive and this change of thought can help to create a new direction to survive.
When you do a reframe, you are negotiating with that unconscious part of yourself and determining what that secondary gain is. In reality, your anxiety might really be trying to tell you something, the key is figuring out just what that is. If you try and look at that positive intent, it can change how you view it.
Anxiety is a manifestation of your protecting mechanism that shows up from your past experience., A simple way to deal with the stress is to understand that there is a message in this anxiety. In NLP, when we say reframe it simply means to look at the other side of something. So what is the other side of your anxiety?
If you are anxious right now in your life, get into the awareness that there are some things in your life that needs to be addressed or changed in your life. It is a potent technique for helping you change your behaviour. A reframe comes with a positive outcome or a secondary that can be accomplished by all of your behaviours. It’s like you get a reward for good marks scored in your exams. The secondary gain is not usually a conscious choice. You might be putting off getting a better job for example, because you like the sympathy you get when people feel sorry for you because you have a stressful job. If you got a new job, you wouldn’t have as much to complain about and you wouldn’t be getting that sympathy.
Reframing anxiety into a different perspective can change how you react to it.
Relaxing anchors are one of techniques of NLP for managing anxiety. At the moment of anxiety a few deep and cleansing breath or going back to something in your life that was calm and relaxing. It could be changing your focus on a positive memory like a day at the beach, or a day when you won some award.
Imagine yourself actually walking along the beach enjoying the feeling of the sand rushing between your toes, trying to see and feel the wave, try to smell the sea air as well. At this moment you will feel a relaxed state as long as you desire and when you feel a state of relaxation and peace, create an anchor by touching your thumb and index finger together for example.You can also create a fist and think about the positive memory as you squeeze. The next time you get anxious or stressed, you can then use your anchor and bring back those positive happy feelings.
There are many other simple techniques in NLP that can help treat anxiety for example:
Dissociation: A painful experience of the past can be a reason for the anxiety one can replace by magnifying good memories and disconnecting from painful experiences of the past.
Belief Change: Most of our operations and goals are achieved with our perception of the life situation makes up a belief system. Changing beliefs that hold you back from success.
Future Pacing: Integrating goals into your life so that you continue to achieve after therapy. These can be very similar to CBT.
The techniques mentioned above are the basic outline of NLP tools can be used to manage anxiety, much of the stress of modern world leads to anxiety that is based on the simple nagging belief. NLP takes different approaches to treat anxiety. Yes, there is an unconscious mind. But it seeks to help us, even if it doesn’t always make a very good job of it.
One can choose to feel less anxious and live a better life by the tools provided by NLP.
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